Out of twelve only one interpretation comes close to a meaning of Surrender that I prefer most:

To give up in favour of another

The question is: of another What?

Better indeed is knowledge than mechanical practice. Better than knowledge is meditation. But better still is surrender of attachment to results, because there follows immediate peace. – Bhagavad Gita

The Meaning of Surrender

I found that the mainstream belief about Surrender is that you have to give up something that you like or would like to have, like winning an argument for example. But what if the true meaning of Surrender is to attain something?

What if instead of insisting on ‘being right’ in a discussion you would surrender to the other person(s) point of view and gain insights that you otherwise would have missed?

Change is the essence of life. Be willing to Surrender what you are for what you could become. – Author unknown

Surrender goes hand in hand with Faith. They work best together and to embrace one fully, it is essential to accept the other too.

Once you can Surrender to Faith, the power of this combination will start to reveal itself to you in almost miraculous ways.

If you choose to accept the interpretation above for Surrender,  you can tap into the secret of true and lasting change that separates the ones who `try´ from the ones that actually achieve a permanent transformation.

Faith and Surrender – A Power Team

Change is mainly a two step process with a presupposition:

The assumption that needs to be accepted is that change is possible at all and can be done by yourself.

1. First you identify the  behaviour or belief  you want to change,
2. then you replace it with a new one.

If you give yourself permission to have Faith and to Surrender, you will feel a kind of acceptance and peace.

It was when I surrendered and trusted that I have every resource I need within me, when I was able to do things that took me a lot of courage to do like

• my first jump from a boat into the open sea (quite a big thing when you are as afraid of sharks as I am)
• leading a night dive
• Bungee Jumping

or that seem to be impossible like

• braking a wooden board without even touching it
• pricking a straw through an apple or
• breaking an arrow (that was put with its tip on my throat and was broken by leaning against it)

It was in the moment of making the conscious decision to Surrender my fears in exchange for Trust when I felt connected to the mighty power that is within everybody who dares to take that step and I know that Surrender will be my secret shield when I do a fire walk with Anthony Robbins. (More about these “Out with old excuses. In with new goals.”- events here )

The power of Surrender

Maybe you have experienced a similar moment. Maybe you did even scarier things like a sky dive or jumping out of a plane. Maybe you had really scary or life threatening moments when you thought you would die and when you then Surrendered to that possibility you have been given a second chance to live…

If you have, you will agree that the ‘Team Faith/Surrender‘ was there to support you and you will be able to remember how it felt to ‘be in the moment’ when everything around you happens like in slow motion.

Do you remember how radiant, vibrant, alive, excited, vivid and energetic you felt afterwards? How would you have completed this sentence:

“If I can do/survive this,…..  “?

If you haven’t had this kind of experience yet, when would be a good time to get out of your comfort zone and try something new (of course I am not talking about causing an accident here, right?)?
What would be one thing that you have put of until now, knowing that if you finally did it, it would make the difference in moving forward in your career, relationship or somehow else in your life?

What would it take to make that step?

Surrender – it will set yourself free.

What is your perception?

For some people, seeing a coach is something they would never do, because

a) they are the lonely wolves, who want to do it all by themselves
b) it would be like going to a psychiatrist (“where you go when you need to be fixed”)
c) they think they can’t afford it
d) they don’t feel worthy or important enough or
e) they have no idea how they could benefit from having a coach

To be blunt and honest: if someone belongs to one or several points from a) to d), coaching would be perfect, because those beliefs, which are neither supportive nor motivating, can be easily changed through simple strategies that are in the repertoire of any good coach.

In regards to the benefits – assuming that you found the coach that fits your expectations, the result is the same as it is with networking:
What you get out of it is in direct proportion to what you put in. If you come with a “we’ll see”-attitude, you will get “we’ll see” results. If you are committed to doing what it takes to get where you want, that is exactly where you’ll go.

Coaching is about supporting you to take on leadership over all parts of your life. To take on responsibility for your actions and non-actions and to be comfortable with it, knowing, you do the best you can. It is about offering choice where you could not see alternatives before and finding answers where you did not even have the questions you need to move forward. Coaching is about allowing you to see further than you would dare to and prepare you to pass the obstacles that may arise on your way to get there.

Why do athletes have coaches? What do they get out of it?

[Tony Robbins'] coaching has made a remarkable difference in my life, both on and off the court. He’s helped me discover what I’m really made of and he has enable me to see things from an empowering new vantage point.
With Tony’s help I set new standards for myself and taken my tennis game – and my life – to a whole new level. [...]

This is what Serena Williams, 8-times Grand slam winner and Gold medallist, got from being coached by Tony Robbins.
Does Tony know anything about tennis? Well, definitely not more than Serena.
Did he ‘make’ her anything? Not at all.
Did he support her? Definitely!
Could someone as successful as her still improve? Obviously.

If people like Serena Williams, Tiger Woods, Andrew Agassi and so many others, who already have a life others dream of  get benefit from coaching – do you think there is something in it for you?

Accidently, coincidently or however you want to call the circumstances – I recently watched a wonderful movie called “Kinky Boots”.

It is the story of a young man, Charlie, who inherits his father’s shoe factory. The declining need for the kind of shoes they usually make and the loss of a big contract prompt the young man to look for other opportunities and he more or less coincidently finds a fantastic niche market and even the perfect designer for his new boots. But although the perspectives are great, he is a bit hesitant.

The reason: The fabric is situated in Northampton and the majority of people who live there are very conservative (just the kind of people who would buy the old fashioned shoes the fabric used to produce).
His idea: to make shoes and boots for transvestites.
His designer: Lola/Simon, Drag-Queen and owner of the club where the transvestites meet.

The story shows the development of two very different men who have made very different choices about how to cope with their fathers’ suppressions and how their professional and business success is interdependent with their personal development.

It is a story of persistence, sense of responsibility, commitment, humanity and humility, and most of all, a story of courage. The courage to be who you are, to stand up for your dream, the courage to take a risk, to think outside the square and to think big.

What I like most about it is that the movie is based on a real story. And these kind of stories happen again and again every day. You also have a story in you that is worth mentioning. Whether you think of starting a business or just recently did, step up on the ladder of responsibility or if you want to swap careers – inevitably you will have to learn new people and/or professional skills before you can do it or at least, to keep you there.

The Transition Guidance Seminar “Inspired Leadership – How To Motivate Yourself And Others” is designed to support you in asking yourself the right questions and to assist you in your own personal and professional development, whichever you need first or more of. Check it out.